The four letter F word…
I feel. . . . It is fascinating how, for some people, the whole world of feelings is not so much uncharted territory but rather a country they do not actually know exists. So don’t even realise how restricting this blind spot is. We work a lot with people to develop...
Top 10 happy films
We know that people perform better mentally after watching a film that makes them laugh compared to viewing something more miserable. Have to hand a set of happiness inducing movies. Everyone will make different choices. I’ve mentioned It’s a Wonderful Life which I...
Big society?
There’s been a lot of talk about this idea of forming partnerships with philanthropists, charities, businesses and social investors to develop new services. The aim is to make it easier to support local communities by giving time, expertise or money. How can you...
See others’ strengths
Some people just wind us up. They have annoying ways. You feel frustrated and angry. They rob you of happiness. So ask yourself: What is it difficult people do? List their, no-doubt annoying, behaviours. What is it they want? To get their own way, to win, to make it...
Make memories
Why do memories of childhood and our youth remain vivid while many of the ensuing years don’t leave much of a mark? One theory is that these were our first encounters, so sensations were strong. Later, we get jaded and don’t notice repeat experiences as they are not...
In a perfect world
People consider it normal to think “What’s the worst that can happen?” scaring themselves miserably as a result. Any time you imagine disaster looming take a moment to indulge in “What’s the absolute fantasy perfect world best that can happen?” If you are giving a...
You are not alone
Who could you call at 4:00am if you needed to talk about your troubles? If you can immediately give a name then chances are you will live longer and happier than someone who has no close confidantes. Loneliness is seriously damaging. One of your life’s goals must be...
Perfect vs Good enough
The world is divided into ‘maximisers’ and ‘satisficers’. Maximisers make you move tables three times in a restaurant till they, notionally, have the best one. Satisficers tend to know when things are good enough and can get on and enjoy their meal while maximisers...
Act with random kindness… again
Other people are an antidote to the downs of life. Research shows that acting with kindness is the most reliable way to increase well-being. Do one wholly unexpected kind thing today and tomorrow. You are already doing basic door holding and seat giving, I am sure. Go...
Discover your purpose
It’s easy to keep your head down, being dutiful, working hard to get by. Later in life people often stop and ask, “Is this it?” Don’t leave the question of your purpose in life too late to do anything about it. Start with some questions: What are your deepest values?...